My daughter is an adult and my son is an older teen that looks incredibly grown-up. Sometimes my arms ache for their little toddler hugs, but I really am enjoying the present with them. Attending arts and cultural events with my daughter is a great pleasure. She is such a great companion. My son and I do appreciate very different pass times, but we do enjoy having long conversations about various topics. Hopefully my friendships with each of my kids will continue to grow as they progress through their life.
To lay down a strong foundation for our future as an aging family, my husband and I have always insisted on doing certain things, such as:
1. Eat evening meals together. Super hard sometimes with our various work and social schedules but it happens almost every night!
2. Grocery shop, complete house chores and projects together. Sharing the mundane moments of life as a family unit can be tedious but with everyone pitching in, we have a better respect for each other's time.
3. Asking each other how was their day and listening.
4. Attending events together.
That is why on a very hot Sunday afternoon, despite being exhausted from work, we attended a ball game with our kids and enjoyed a meal together that evening. Yes, I totally went to bed immediately after supper - but it was totally worth it!
Believe me, we all get on each others nerves. There is yelling. LOUD yelling. Our relationships are not perfect but they are strong.